So, here's what happened. Yesterday I enjoyed my quiet hour after carpool and before elementary school send off and exercised, and then came to the computer to log it. And as I sat at the computer and looked at my email, I saw I had three comments to this blog, all from the same person and on the same post... an individual I do not know on an old post back when we were living in Costa Rica in 2010 - (quick background context to this post that was commented on ... Corey had just left for Chile that morning, I was on my own for 2 weeks in Central America with 7 kids, and 5 year old Wesley fell and cut his lip pretty bad. ~ I ended up deciding to wait until morning and not to go to the hospital that was an hour away through the jungle with all the kids in tow because it was late, they were all in bed, I didn't have a cell phone, etc etc, it was quite the stressful event for me. Plus Wes had fallen asleep as I tried to formulate a plan of attack. Anyway, so I didn't take him anywhere and just prayed for it to heal on it's own, and the comment I just got on the post, since we're here 4 years later, was basically a very colorful way of saying I messed up. (Is that ambiguous enough). I'll get specific here (Corey tell me if you think this should go too...) but he/she added that they hoped they could eat my brains. So yeah, wow! I called Corey to tell him, cause I had to tell someone the rude things that had been aimed at me (not to dwell on it though! I was just making small talk)
...I am learning everyday that haters are gonna hate no matter what I say, what I type, what photos I take, and choices I make. But listen up! I am confident in who I am as an adored daughter of a loving God. He directs my life and if I am smart, I will listen and obey. I recognize that we all make bad choices, and I certainly have. But, I am not ashamed of who I am and my roll as a mother, woman and wife. I am not ashamed of my Mormon faith and it's beliefs.
~ I ask (God) for an increased amount of love- especially for the people who attack me and my family on social media. I am sad for them because I know they are not happy. And I know that I am happy, and no matter what they say, they can never ever change that.
It honestly didn't bother me, cause I know me. I know I'm trying to be a good person and a good mother. I love and feel so blessed to be a stay at home mom and homemaker. I'm married to my best friend who is awesome in every way, and life is pretty much wonderful! I love living my life. "I am happy!" And happy people will keep on being happy while haters gonna hate, I guess. I don't know why anyone would want to be a pain-body though. It just seems so... so... painful. Here's to hoping that more "anonymous people" on the internet pause and come to themselves and start to choose happiness, politeness, and nice-ness! It's actually a very good and happy place to be. Here's a little diagram with tips for anyone just getting started with being happy, and if anyone is not interested in being happy, well there's tips for that too:
1. The internet is not an alternate dimension where the laws of morality, ethics, and basic human decency are magically suspended.
The internet is what happens when you go on your computer to find information, or to communicate, or to view a video of a three-toed sloth crossing the street in Costa Rica. At no point in this process do you forfeit your humanity. You are a human being doing things on the internet, and those things often impact, to some extent, other human beings. So whatever you do or say on the internet, it’s just like you’ve done it or said it in real life. Why? Well, because this is real life. This is not a dream. It is not a fantasy. This is real, I am real, you are real, everything that happens here is real.
So, have a happy day here on planet earth with your real life. It's the only mortal life you've got, so make it a good one!!!
There are so many people out there that I think are unhappy with themselves and their lives that they look for people who are happy and try spew hatred to try to bring them down. I find it amusing that people are so good at saying hurtful hate filled things when they are anonymous...also, the language makes him sound so educated that everyone will want to listen (insert sarcasm). It is also funny to me that the people who are the "experts" in how we should raise our kids and what we should be doing with/for/to them usually don't even have children of their own and would never even attempt to take 7 children to the mailbox let alone the emergency room an hour away. I said it once and I will say it again... I think you are a really great mom!
ReplyDeleteThanks Kristen, you're pretty great yourself!! :) Love ya
ReplyDeleteI know you didn't post this with the intent to get affirmation from others, but I have to comment that you are a great mom. I look up to you and love reading your blog posts. I often find parenting ideas, perspectives and attitudes that have helped me while reading about your experiences. I'm sorry that someone is trolling in the comments. Lame!
ReplyDeleteI really really really really needed this post today. I am going to read it a couple more times.
ReplyDeleteThanks Casey, love you guys. Carrie - glad to help, Sharing is cathartic! I'm all ears if you need me :)
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